The Sensitivity and Inflammatory Nature of "YOU"

If you've ever taken a writing course, a rhetoric course or any type of speech coaching you've probably learned not to say "YOU"! If you've ever gone to couples counseling you've probably realized how carefully you must consider using the word "you."

Using the word "you" in many cases is a big "no, no" and can be very dangerous if you want to maintain and care for a relationship over the long term.

What's the big deal? Why is "you" the worst three-letter word?

The truth is that blame has "scapegoat-ism" have become so common in our culture that just saying the word "you" gets people on edge. They know that if someone is saying "you" chances are that someone is trying to push responsibility onto someone else and that can be very comfortable in a culture that is continually confused about who is actually responsible.

The sensitivity and chaos cause by the word "you" can result in a lot of discomfort but it can also provide YOU with valuabel clues about our culture and about valuable clues about what is powerful in our culture.

Here's a hint from me. Where vulnerability lies power can be found.

WHERE VULNERABILITY LIES POWER CAN BE FOUND.

And power can be found in the word you. What I'm trying to say is that people are so afraid of what others are pushing in their direction that they forget to look at the most important you of all.

The MOST IMPORTANT YOU = ME.

There is so much power in each of us that it's common for us to be afraid of our own power, responsibility and talent and to point all of it in the direction of someone else (i.e, you). Blame is one way but putting people on a pedastal (e.,g, Hollywood superstars) is just another form of blaming.

If we remember that everything we can see in others can actually be found inside ourselves then it's pretty easy to see how powerful we truly are and how many personas we can authentically demonstrate in our lives.

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