The Loneliness Persona, despite not always being a welcome visitor, bears gifts and one of the main gifts that it bears is a continuous introduction to the hidden self. This hidden self contains the aspects of ourselves that we have chosen to hide for a variety of reasons.
We all know that we have a self. It is obvious. Simplistically, all you have to do is look in the mirror to see that we are separate from other people, animals, objects, etc. But believe it or not you may not have gotten to know yourself in the deepest way possible; in fact, you may be somewhat disconnected with your deepest authenticity.
You can bet you do not welcome the gifts of the Loneliness Persona if you do/feel the following:
1. Hate being alone
2. Hate analyzing anything about yourself
3. Can't talk about anything that differs from your worldview
You can probably bet that you are seeking a deeper authenticity of yourself and that you welcome the gifts of the Loneliness persona if you do of think the following:
1. You continually put yourself out of your comfort zone to try new things;
2. You voraciously read or watch videos to help determine your true beliefs and opinions
3. You feel uncomfortable in some social situations and with certain personalities in your life
4. You feel like you are not quite complete
5. You feel like you could be doing better in this life you are living
6. Even when you are socializing you feel alone as if you aren't quite in the right place at the right time or do not feel stimulated mentally or otherwise
7. You are aware that you experience loneliness on a fairly regular basis or almost all of the time
If you are experiencing any of the listed items above you probably already spend a good deal of time alone. When you are alone, it is very natural to talk to oneself or consider one's own qualities. It is also common to analyze more deeply than others might. It is also very natural to have one's Fear Persona pop up and hold the Loneliness Persona by the hand because the Fear Persona knows when to warn you that you are getting too close to the truth about yourself which will cause you to see any variety of truths such as that you need new friends or that your family environment is unhealthy and caustic. In many ways the Fear Persona works against the gifts of the Loneliness Persona.
Here are some examples of things that might come up when you are alone:
1. You realize, that in many cases, you agree with the opinions of someone whom your parents/siblings/friends hate or with whom they disagree strongly even violently;
2. You realize that the people you spend most of your time with spend their precious communication time gossiping, complaining or verbally brutalizing other people and that you do not want to use the power of your words in this way. This also implies that you need new friends and leaving old friends behind and finding new friends is a TREMENDOUS ACT OF COURAGE;
3. You realize that even though you often join in on making fun of a certain personality you actually feel authentically that you do not want to make fun of that person and would rather get to know him/her. However, this would require that you stand up for this person and possibly face your Embarrassed Persona;
4. You realize that even though you are in college or at a prestigious university and working toward a degree in "X" you have no real true interest or love for that subject, and maybe that you are even very unhappy in that place;
5. You realize that you are angry with a parent or loved one but are afraid to communicate that anger;
6. You realize that you have been abused or lied to (lying is also abuse) by a "parent" or "loved one" and aren't sure how to say what you are feeling or are not sure how to get out of the situation;
7. You realize that your sexuality may not be monogamous, that you would greatly enjoy additional sexual partners or that you prefer homoexuality or transgenderism
8. You realize that even though your culture applauds those who go to college, get degrees, buy homes and have a family that none of those endeavors are what you truly desire
9. You realize that even though your culture applauds entrepreneurs, being bold, having a shoot-from-the-hip attitude, or multiple sexual partners that none of these endeavors are what you want
10. You realize that you are doing whatever it is that you are doing because someone else wants you to do it
The thing about being alone is that we often find out very clearly what we need to ACT on to get to the next level (whatever the "next level" means to you) which can be very uncomfortable especially if it involves "rocking the boat" as the expression goes. However, if something inside of you is telling you that you desire more authenticity then you can ignore that information (there are lots of personas that will help you with this) or you can act on it (there are many personas that will help you with this). There is no right or wrong in this scenario.....just your choice.
And sometimes we forget we have that choice.
Watch this video to view the physicalities associated with the Loneliness Persona and it's gifts:
[[[[DO THE ROLLOVER AND TALK ABOUT HOW IT "DIGS" INTO THE CORE OF YOU AND IN MANY WAYS TURNS YOU UPSIDE DOWN like the gifts of the Loneliness Persona does]]]]]]
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