1) Try practicing the "Love Persona" video and the PPM. [[[sEE THIS VIDEO WHICH INTRODUCES THE LOVE PERSONA PRACTICE]]]
2) Try re-considering your current beliefs. For example:
Belief #1: I believe that there is good and evil and that if I have anything to do with the evil I am not worth love.
I am not going to debate the existence of good or evil but I will say that if you believe that you aren't worth love because you've done something "evil" or "bad" then what is the point of unconditional love? It may be hard to love yourself if you've hit someone in the face but it is possible. (note: I am certainly not recommending that you hit someone in the face to try this out.) It is unfortunate how often many of us don't love ourselves because some rule somewhere says that 40% of our actions (or whatever amount) are bad.
I am not going to debate the existence of good or evil but I will say that if you believe that you aren't worth love because you've done something "evil" or "bad" then what is the point of unconditional love? It may be hard to love yourself if you've hit someone in the face but it is possible. (note: I am certainly not recommending that you hit someone in the face to try this out.) It is unfortunate how often many of us don't love ourselves because some rule somewhere says that 40% of our actions (or whatever amount) are bad.
Belief #2: You're not worth the time or the money.
Believe it or not there's plenty of time and money to go around. In this life almost everything relates to time and money. Time and money may not be the most important things in life but they are both good measurements for what you value most. If you've been taught through early modeling that spending money or time on yourself is selfish then it's going to be pretty damn hard to value yourself. How can you change this belief? Try this: spend more money and time on yourself based on items and experiences that come to mind when you think of words like "joy," "happiness," and "success" and see what happens. If you feel good about your decisions....keep going! You're probably on the right track!
Believe it or not there's plenty of time and money to go around. In this life almost everything relates to time and money. Time and money may not be the most important things in life but they are both good measurements for what you value most. If you've been taught through early modeling that spending money or time on yourself is selfish then it's going to be pretty damn hard to value yourself. How can you change this belief? Try this: spend more money and time on yourself based on items and experiences that come to mind when you think of words like "joy," "happiness," and "success" and see what happens. If you feel good about your decisions....keep going! You're probably on the right track!
Belief #3: Nobody loves you.
Really? Nobody loves you. Okay. What is love? Spending time with you? What is love? Sincere listening? What is love? Kindness? What is love? A warm meal? Do these things for yourself according to your own definition of love and then reevaluate how your perceptions regarding others. It's very likely they will begin to change and that most people are ready to love you at all moments if you're ready to treat yourself according to your own standards of what love is.
Belief #4: Making excuses gets me "off the hook."
Making excuses for why you are currently uncomfortable will keep you "on the hook" of discomfort. If you want to be loved making excuses for why you are not loved will never get you there. It's weird at first but don't make excuses. I can't think of one instance in which they are really valuable to a conversation and are never inspiring.
Really? Nobody loves you. Okay. What is love? Spending time with you? What is love? Sincere listening? What is love? Kindness? What is love? A warm meal? Do these things for yourself according to your own definition of love and then reevaluate how your perceptions regarding others. It's very likely they will begin to change and that most people are ready to love you at all moments if you're ready to treat yourself according to your own standards of what love is.
Belief #4: Making excuses gets me "off the hook."
Making excuses for why you are currently uncomfortable will keep you "on the hook" of discomfort. If you want to be loved making excuses for why you are not loved will never get you there. It's weird at first but don't make excuses. I can't think of one instance in which they are really valuable to a conversation and are never inspiring.
Can you really change your beliefs?
Of course you can change your beliefs. Beliefs are a framework for your actions (whether your actions are in line with the beliefs or are working against them) that tell you how to feel about yourself.
To change your beliefs you simply live, consider beliefs that are not yours and consider them again and again until they make so much sense for your life that they become your default belief. Then if you are the type of person that generally keeps his/her actions in line with your beliefs your life sill explode into something new and probably much more desirable to you!
The evolution of beliefs is quite constant though there may be some beliefs that you never change in this lifetime.
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The evolution of beliefs is quite constant though there may be some beliefs that you never change in this lifetime.
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