How to Develop the Habit of Awareness

Developing awareness can be scary at first because some of us have a fear of being imperfect but you'll probably find that if this is the case with you you're going to realize that being aware provides more benefits than pitfalls including attracting people who trust you more readily. To develop awareness here are two easy things you can do:

1) For one week record yourself in conversation throughout all your encounters with others. You can buy those little spy recorders (yes, some of them are pens or even usb drives as you can see in this entry's image) and carry them around. Then, over the next couple of months listen to how you talk to others and consider your motives. Were you ever trying to invoke negative feelings in a person you were conversing with (jealousy, insecurity, inferiority, fear, etc.) If so, why were you doing that and is there another option? If you can identify your motives in these conversations you are doing a great job already in developing awareness.

2) Try writing a fake journal entry from the point of view of someone who knows you (a friend, acquaintance, enemy, etc.). This works best if you are writing from the point of view of someone who is not fond of you. Write an entire page and see if you don't realize that you can actually see his/her point of view. Then, the next time you encounter this person if things start to get heated try to cool things down by saying "I can see your point of view. Thanks for sharing that with me. I still tend to believe this but......" and then afterward if you feel anger (which is pretty inevitable, take up boxing. Boxing can do wonders for anger release.

After a few of these exercises (and there are others you can search online if you're interested) you'll start to carry awareness with you as a habit. What this will feel like (at least at first) is that you are two people in the same body. You're the person doing things and you're the person observing your actions; you're the person saying things and you're the person observing your words; you're the person thinking things and you're the person observing your thoughts. To me, it feels kind of weird....almost out-of-body but still fun because you get to feel more like a super hero with a super kind of gift......the gift of self-awareness.....which by the way, in may cases, will increase your awareness about what others are feeling or thinking as well.

I Deserve Respect

I went to my chiropractor a few weeks ago. He did some of his normal "checks and balances" on my skeletal frame but based on my attitude that day he guessed there was something up with me emotionally.

He was right. I've been patronizing (literally) this chiropractor since 2012 and I'm sort of an emotional-heart-on-my-sleeve type of person so he knows when I feel like punching someone.

"Who do you feel like punching today Marci?" he asked politely.

Actually he didn't ask that question though I can imagine him doing so. Instead he began his neuro-emotional technique which I am always impressed with because it works so quickly. It basically functions with the chiropractor asking my body questions with a series of muscle testing to confirm the answers. This time the emotion came back to an incident with my father.

After talking briefly over the incident and asking a few more questions he asked me to say "I Deserve Respect." It was just a mantra and just three words and I began to speak it in a practical way but could feel the wave of tears coming over me.

And then the tears burst through. Wow...I deserve respect. For some reason Aretha's song had never meant so much to me. It was in that moment that I realized I truly needed to be treated with more deference, more understanding and from the perspective of personal boundaries....my Dad not only needed his own personal boundaries (to protect himself) but also needed boundaries when it came to dealing with his children.

Anyway, I left the chiropractor's office in tears and with a bottle of some kind of supplement in hand (still can't remember what it was) and I haven't stopped thinking about the mantra "I deserve respect," ever since. I don't know what I should do with my newfound wealth of understanding so it's sitting there and I'm holding a space for it so it can stay there and eat, sleep, party and whatever else a good "wealth of understanding" does in its spare time.

As for the Personified Physique the respectful persona is someone we can observe outside of us for clues as to how s/he carries herself/himself and also a persona or aspect that exists within us. I think of this persona taking a step backward when s/he knows herself/himself is getting close to something that could potentially cause someone pain. We're generally aware of when we're trying to cause pain.....if we're even expending the least bit of energy to be aware and so the respectful persona is an easy one to develop if we're practicing awareness.

How to Develop Greater Awareness and Carry It With You
Developing awareness can be scary at first because some of us have a fear of being imperfect but you'll probably find that if this is the case with you you're going to realize that being aware provides more benefits than pitfalls including attracting people who trust you more readily. To develop awareness here are two easy things you can do:

1) For one week record yourself in conversation throughout all your encounters with others. You can buy those little spy recorders (yes, some of them are pens) and carry them around. Then, over the next couple of months listen to how you talk to others and consider your motives. Were you ever trying to invoke negative feelings in a person you were conversing with (jealousy, insecurity, inferiority, fear, etc.) If so, why were you doing that and is there another option? If you can identify your motives in these conversations you are doing a great job already in developing awareness.

2) Try writing a fake journal entry from the point of view of someone who knows you (a friend, acquaintance, enemy, etc.). This works best if you are writing from the point of view of someone who is not fond of you. Write an entire page and see if you don't realize that you can actually see his/her point of view. Then, the next time you encounter this person if things start to get heated try to cool things down by saying "I can see your point of view. Thanks for sharing that with me. I still tend to believe this but......" and then afterward if you feel anger (which is pretty inevitable, take up boxing. Boxing can do wonders for anger release.

Successful People: What is the #1 Thing They Have in Common?

Once you align your physical self with your non-physical self (i.e, your thoughts, feelings, desires, etc.) you'll be a successful person.

But believe it or not you're already a successful person.

But if you're like most people you don't believe that last statement so I'll say this: The #1 thing that people who don't currently believe they are successful can develop so that they do feel successful is their own life vision and a constant and natural sense of self-awareness. People who feel successful and seem to flow in this world are people who don't really pay attention to other people.

Okay, let me clarify.

Successful people do pay attention to other people but not too much.

They listen to other people.

They care about other people.

But they don't listen to other people's "musts" and "shoulds."

And they don't care about what other people say is "right" or "wrong" except to respect their personal boundaries.

People who feel successful are primarily seeing and chasing their own vision of themselves and of the world they are creating as they uncover who they really are. They uncover their soul and thus change the world.

They are few in number but they are aware enough to know what they desire and that includes what kind of a world they desire to live in.....and so you will see them naturally changing the world around them but mostly they are focused on their own vision and on self-awareness.

Expansion and Contraction: What is your persona doing?

As we develop and show in real-time the personas that are taking us toward our life's desires you may notice in my positive persona videos that almost every persona whether s/he is open/closed s/he will always be expanding.


I'm not sure I could think of one positive persona that would find any use for contraction. Many negative personas find use for contraction and that's no problem except that negative personas are not meant to take us toward our life's desires but to show us when we are moving away from them and it's fine to move away from them. Moving away from our life's desires can show us with even more contrast exactly which personal boundaries we'd have to create in order to move in the other direction again toward our life's desires.

It's that simple.

It's that easy.

If you want to be moving toward your life's desires and you've chosen positive personas to get you there make sure every pose and exercise feels like an expansion and not a contraction.

In my videos I'll try and give you all the tips you need to head in the direction you want to go.

Feel free to leave any questions.

Accept How You Feel and Do What You Love!

I've thought a lot about the essence of what I want to share with the Personified Physique program and the thought keeps coming to my mind that the more simple the program is the better.

Overall, I think the program has a simple format. It goes something like this:

1) Understanding of basic concepts
2) Mental exercises
3) Physical exercises
4) Application

Deep down though the program is something people can do without doing the actual program. Deep down the program could be described even more simply:

1) Accept how you feel
2) Do what you love

Any program is generally designed to help people find change and I think the simplest way to get real change is to accept any and all feelings you have (they are just feelings after all) and do what you love. There are many instances in which your feelings and what you are doing won't match up (that is the frustration of misalignment but eventually there will be connections and alignments that happen and what you do will end up generating feelings that will result in more energy and more of the kind of emotions that you want to feel.

At least that's the idea. What do you think/feel?